May 29, 2010 at 11:05 am 2 comments

We now have a second story developing in our remodel, and it’s at the stage of wide open-ness. There are walls, vaulted ceilings, a roof, windows, and nothing else. It feels vast and airy without any of the inner walls that will carve the space into bedrooms. So we’ve been dreaming a bit. What if we left it open?

With the three girls sleeping we spread the plans out on the living room floor and analyzed. We currently are sleeping, all five of us in one bedroom, and the girls love it. At bedtime there is almost no resistance, no ill-concealed attempts to linger with the parents because the parents are in the same room. The older girls, who have been sleeping in their own room until the remodel, especially seem to like the close proximity. So … would they mind continuing to cohabitate in this way?

We continued to scoop the cat off the plans and erase walls in our minds. We imagined sunlight, and tree tops and….


Holy shit. At some point we will have three teenage girls. And teenage girls travel in packs, so that means that each of our girls might also attract two or three other girls. Nine teenage girls all in the same, albeit large, loft with the parents? Our dreams of warehouse-like space and open floor plan were not looking that plausible, well actually impossible.

But we continued to lounge and brainstorm. I found myself designing collapsible walls that could be pulled across for teenage privacy and then tucked back in when not in use. Nathan began imagining canopy beds in which each girl could maintain a privacy pod of their own. We considered leaving it open for now and then building walls in four years when Bella turned the magical age of thirteen.

Our conversation lingered and then flowed onward toward the events of the day. I described to Nathan the mysterious game that Xi and her little buddy Elliott have been playing. Kris and I have only been able to catch glimpses and glean minor details, as the game is played purposely out of earshot of the parents. We know it involves a dungeon, a glamorous dress, and handcuffs. So intriguing! Nathan and I giggled and then realized…. ah snap.

They ALREADY want privacy.

So walls it is.

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2 Comments Add your own

  • 1. 6512 and growing  |  May 29, 2010 at 2:13 pm

    OMG. A pack of teenage girls! Never too early to prepare!

  • 2. kris laroche  |  May 30, 2010 at 8:20 pm

    saschy, at just under two is already asking for “pry-fa-see”. darnit all that they develop into their own individual selves. what the heck.


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