September 9, 2009 at 3:47 am 9 comments

Echo and Papa at the river.

Echo and Papa at the river.

Here’s a shout out to all the papas. Here, here for Papas.

There is a saying: always the bridesmaid never the bride, well in the early years of a kid’s life a papa is kind of like a bridesmaid. He can be the best papa that ever lived, but at the end of the day, he isn’t the mama. He’s not the birth giver, he isn’t the nurser.

What most new dad’s don’t realize is that after the baby is born he will be asked to keep doing what he was already doing (often working a lot) and then do more (like washing dishes more often, doing more laundry, more shopping) and then on top of that, have less (time with his beautiful partner, less of her attention). It can be kind of tricky.

There are the sweet times when baby sleeps on papa’s big warm chest, or rides on his tall shoulders, or falls into giggle fits when he kisses her tummy. But sometimes being a good papa means passing the crying child that just scraped her knee to the mama, because despite papa’s sincere concern and care, that’s what the child wants. And that’s hard.

It takes a big man to be a papa.


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9 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Romy  |  September 10, 2009 at 4:08 pm

    Aww….that is the most beautiful photo, and underneath, such nice words. Very true.

  • 2. scasey67  |  September 14, 2009 at 2:51 am

    Wow. This is probably the best thing I have read about fathering.

  • 3. jessica  |  September 14, 2009 at 4:27 am

    so happy to have come upon your blog and products tonight (found you through soulemama/indiefixx.) everything i’ve read here is encouraging and insightful, and comes at a perfect time as we are parenting our 2.5 yr son. after a tough parenting day today, your blog hit the spot. thanks so much! and this papa post will be passed on to my husband asap.

  • 4. njoyinghim4vr  |  September 14, 2009 at 7:18 am

    Very true, only REAL men can be Papas!

  • 5. Lynn  |  September 14, 2009 at 10:19 am

    Well said. Beautiful.

    Found your site and your product this early a.m. and am very excited to pass the info. on to one of my friends. She teaches early education and is always trying to find ways to teach about emotions. This is perfect!

    Thank you!

  • 6. TryingHard  |  September 18, 2009 at 1:25 pm

    That is just so beautiful and eloquent.

    My comment will mostly echo jessica’s (above). I’m so happy to have found your blog (courtesy of Playful Learning). I feel my 3yr son is getting a raw deal all the time at the moment. He’s stuck in the middle, between a “perfect” older sister and a cute baby brother. It breaks my heart to think of the number of times I’ve seen his face fall at the choice of words we direct at him. Blogs like yours is a helpful reminder that there are more loving ways to teach. Thank you!

  • 7. Isha  |  September 20, 2009 at 7:53 pm

    I second what the other two said!

    Am sending this one on to the hubby and following your wonderful blog.

  • 8. niki  |  September 23, 2009 at 2:56 pm

    grateful to have found your blog, lovely true words which all papas should here, we love them and are grateful for them every day. couldn’t have said it better.


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